Today I went to my first Super Suppers assembly session. Jesus was happy that I was there! What?
First, a disclaimer: I do not have any problem with other people's belief systems. At all. Except when they are being pushed down my throat. Amen.
And, a clarification: I am an atheist, but I'm not one to advertize it. I generally try to go with the flow. And some of my best friends (read: my entire family) are Christians. R is a lapsed Muslim.
I was slightly late to the assembly session, but no matter! They were in the middle of orientation. When I put on my apron and joined the group, the owner of the store said, "Hi Lisa! Jesus is happy that you are here today!" I said, "OK, then!" but I was thinking, "WTF?"
She then went on to explain the assembly process, yada, yada, yada. We were invited to try the sample entree (heavenly chicken), and to partake in some lemon water, iced tea, or a wine spritzer. Then she said, "We'll all work for about an hour and then we'll have a prayer circle!" And there it was, that uncomfortable feeling. The feeling of being the only dissenter in the room. Everyone else was nodding and smiling, but I said, "I won't be participating in that."
Owner lady got a fixed smile on her face. "Oh, sure! Of course! It's up to you!" The damage, however, had been done.
I grabbed my list and headed to the first station, and began to make my food. I had four meals (out of six) finished by the time the prayer circle started. Owner lady went and tagged everyone else in the room to come over, while I stood there and radiated don't-ask-me vibes, and pretended to be fascinated by my chicken cacciatore. Thankfully, she did not tag me and make for another awkward situation.
In the prayer circle everyone thanked Jesus for Super Suppers. Owner lady thanked Jesus for giving her the foresight to open this Super Suppers store and that everyone there was a sign that Jesus approved of her business practice. There was some more stuff, and then everyone said something, and then they were done. When the prayer circle finished I was on the home stretch, finishing my last meal, about to get out of uncomfortable land.
I finished up, and took off my apron so that I could run out to my car to get the basket I was using to carry the food home. As I was loading up my stuff, owner lady came over and said, "Wow, you were really fast! Is everything OK?" I said, "Yeah, great, fine... gotta go!" She held the door open for me, and said, "Do you need any flyers for your friends?" I told her (truthfully) that I'd already talked up Super Suppers to everyone I know (mainly at work), but that none of them lived in Denton (all true! I wasn't trying to be mean). She said, "All right, well see you next time!" I said, "Yeah." Then I went home.
So here's my problem. I was extremely offended by the whole Jesus tone of the assembly session. I felt that it was inappropriate of her to force her religion down the throats of her customers. OK, I know that nobody gives a crap about the sensibilites of atheists (except other atheists), but what if I were Muslim? Buddhist? Jewish? Many people would be offended by this type of proselytizing. (Interesting aside: I am both Muslim and Catholic on paper. My parents are Catholic and so I have all of my Catholic papers. When I applied for my Iranian passport, I was forced to convert to Islam by signing a paper. So I could claim either, but I'm not anything IRL.)
I see this as the equivalent of my husband forcing his customers to kiss a picture of Mohammad when they come into his store. Or forcing them to pray to Allah. Or praying to Allah very loudly while people were shopping in his store. Would the Christians who came in his store be offended? You bet they would. It would probably make the evening news. He doesn't do any of these things, of course. However, he does have a beautiful framed prayer written in Arabic. Where is it? In his office, so that he can enjoy it while he is there.
If you're wondering why I didn't just play along, it's because I really have a problem with forced prayer. My parents are extremely religious and they forced us to go to church, to pray, to read the Bible, etc. I always hated it, and I refuse to participate in religious functions of any kind. I had no idea that this would happen when I went to a store to purchase a product.
This type of scenario is quite common for atheists and persons of any faith other than Christian here in Texas, the buckle of the Bible Belt. Many evangelical Christians kind of center their lives around church, and especially in the smaller cities, can go well into adulthood without meeting someone of no faith or a different faith. They simply do not think in terms of offending other people because they were raised in an environment where everyone is Christian. I understand this. It still pisses me off.
Now I have to decide if I want to continue using this store. My initial reaction is no (owner lady said that the prayer circle is a tradition, so I'm guessing they do it every time), but this store has several advantages for me: easy access to babysitters, flexibility of schedule, and the fact that you can make either six or twelve meals at any session. Most other stores make you do either a six session or a twelve session. The next closest store to me charges more for the service than this store. I am torn. I hate this.
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